How Not to Network: Be Remembered for the Right Reasons

If you think about networking as a shared experience that has benefits for everyone involved, you can start to make it work for you.

Nicole Locklair
Nicole Locklair
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Sep 10, 2021
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One of the key strategies to finding a new job, whether it’s your first or fifth, is to network. Networking can mean reaching out to former colleagues, classmates, clients, or friends of friends to try and land your next role. While that seems easy enough, there are a number of ways you can cross the line from professional and friendly, to borderline fraudulent and desperate. Here we’ll talk about the do’s and don’ts of networking, and how you can make the most out of your connections. 

People You Know

Perhaps the most straightforward place to start is by looking at where your family and friends work or have worked. Maybe you have an aunt or uncle, or former roommate, who works at your dream company. They may not be in the department or role you’d like, but asking them about their experience is a great way to get started. What’s the culture like? How do teams work together? What do you love about it? What are the most challenging parts? 

These types of networking conversations are also typically the easiest. You already have a relationship of some sort, so the small talk of getting to know you is taken care of beforehand. Use your judgement to discern if it’s appropriate to ask the person you know for a referral. Ask yourself, can your acquaintance speak to your strengths for the position? Or would you be better off having them introduce you to someone on the design team first? 

Do

Look at your existing network outside of the professional realm: family, friends, or former coworkers, who have some sense of who you are and what you’re capable of.

Don’t

Bulk ask for referrals from any of the above. Make sure they’ll be your best representative, and that you’re not putting them in an awkward position by asking for a referral.

Two Degrees of Separation

This category consists of friends of friends. You could be talking to your roommate and mention that you saw a job at Company X, and they might say something like, “Oh, my cousin works there, I can introduce you!” You’ve found yourself a way in, and now you’ll need to do a bit more work to get to the next step. 

Do

Follow up to get the introduction. Send a note to your contact saying thanks so much for the offer, and that you’d love to get that person’s email or an introduction. Give them a few days to get back to you, and follow up again if you don’t get a reply. 

Don’t 

Reach out to all the contacts of your friends/family members and say that they sent you. You’re putting them in an awkward position, and potentially jeopardizing your personal relationship along with a future professional one, too. 

Alumni Networks

When we say, “alumni,” we don’t just mean graduates of your school program, though those connections are certainly valuable. What about any volunteer organizations you belong(ed) to, intramural sports teams, meetups, or other non-work related groups where you met people from a variety of backgrounds? You can often find membership directories or alumni pages on LinkedIn, and start the conversation through your shared experience. 

Do

Send an email or message to someone in one of your alumni groups, and lead with how you’re mutually connected. Ask for a conversation to get to know them a bit better and learn about their role/company. If they’re in a design role, ask for feedback on a case study or portfolio project.

Don’t 

Send a short note immediately asking for a referral for a role just because you were both in the same rec soccer league five years ago. Establish the relationship first, and then bring up business. 

LinkedIn

One of the most important things to keep in mind about LinkedIn is that it’s a professional social platform, and all of your posts and interactions should be viewed through that lens. Your main audience on this platform is recruiters, hiring managers, and job seekers. So while you may be talking to future colleagues, keep the conversation about business until you’ve established that relationship offline. 

Do 

Follow companies, join groups, and connect with designers (among other people) when in pursuit of landing a job, but also when you’re learning more about the industry and profession. By making connections with companies and employees before you see a job post, you’re setting yourself up for a call when a position does open up. 

Don’t 

Assume that a connection equals a recommendation. Simply connecting with someone on LinkedIn doesn’t mean they can vouch for your work. If you imply that someone referred you to a job, the recruiter or hiring manager will most likely reach out to that person to confirm details. 

Follow Ups

Making connections is a good start, but following up is the way to solidify those relationships and position yourself for conversations in the future. If you have a conversation with someone and they say to keep in touch, actually do it. Check in every 3-6 months, ask for feedback on new portfolio pieces, and send them a note when you land your new role. 

Do

Reach out to connections every few months, or when you have a relevant update or something of interest to share. If you’re attending an event where they’re speaking, or come across a topic that might be of interest, send them a short message. You should also follow up with recruiters or hiring managers you’ve connected with on LinkedIn, even if you don’t land the job. A brief thank you will keep you top of mind for future positions. 

Don’t 

Assume everyone (or even most people) will get back to you. In reality, many designers don’t check LinkedIn unless they’re hiring or job hunting, so don’t take it personally if you never get a reply. You also want to avoid following up to the point of being a nuisance. If someone says they’ll get back to you and they don’t, give them a week and send a friendly check in. If they continue to ignore you, move on. If the contact is a recruiter for a specific job, feel free to follow up with short check-in emails for up to 3 weeks or so, each week. After that point, they’ve probably filled the role or put it on hold, and it’s time to cut your losses. 

Giving Back

When we’re talking about networking, it’s usually in the context of getting something for ourselves—usually a job, referral, or something else career related. But once that transaction is done, make sure to reciprocate the effort. Send that thank you note, follow up with a quick update on how the new job is going, etc. 

Do

Cultivate your networking relationships. That doesn’t mean you need to send personal messages to everyone in your contacts, but do send thoughtful notes to the ones most important to you. Maybe you see an article, job post, or event you know one of your connections would be interested in. If you send it along, you’ve taken that next step to becoming colleagues instead of just connections. 

Don’t 

Ignore connection requests and messages once you land your job. You certainly don’t have to check LinkedIn or your personal email every day, but part of being a professional designer is to stay connected to the community. You know how frustrating it is to never hear back, so try your best to be gracious to those who come to you with questions or thoughts. 

Conclusion

Networking tends to be something people tolerate at best, and outright dread at worst. But if you think about it as a shared experience that has benefits for everyone involved, you can start to make it work for you. 

To summarize, here are important reminders on how to be remembered for the right reasons:

  • Harness your existing network outside of the professional realm.
  • Use the power of the follow up, and follow up again if you don’t get a reply. 
  • Reach out to your alumni groups, and lead with how you’re mutually connected. 
  • Make connections with companies and employees before you see a job post.
  • Reach out to connections when you have a relevant update or something of interest to share.

Try to avoid the pitfalls, and harness the powerful tactics mentioned, and you’ll be on your way to networking success. 

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